Dear Daughter,
We just came to know about you today. I mean we knew that you were there since the last 20 weeks, but today we came to know that you are a girl. Sometime back I asked your mom whether she loves you and she gave me an interesting answer. She told me that she didn't had many feelings for Aakhya, your elder sister, while she was in the womb but started loving her once she was born. Seems like it is hard to have feelings (and love) for something abstract and we rather develop emotions as it takes a more concrete form. It is like we need a physical metaphor to connect to our emotional construct; and we indeed symbolize every emotions of ours in this physical world: Taj Mahal stands for love, Himalaya stand for bravery, Ganga stands for purity, Cow stands for selflessness, and every Hindu god of ours has his/her power linked to some form of nature. We need concretization to link and express our emotions. Today we learnt about a more concrete form of yours and so I suddenly feel a gush of emotions for you my dear daughter.
One thing you will see in this world is that sometimes people impose a concrete form in order to have the resulting emotions and feelings. For instance, doctor parents may impose their children to be doctors in order to be proud of them; school mates may impose a classmate to be dumb in order to bully her and have fun; colleagues may impose their counterparts to turn for or against them in order to indulge in office politics. This is a sad reality where we constantly cast each other into shapes that we like to see them in, without thinking about the shapes that they would like to be in. Unfortunately, I was guilty of this when we boxed you into a male form and expected to have a balanced girl-boy family. As a result, there was a tinge of unmet expectations when we realized that you in fact wanted to be a girl. But now that I think about it, we were completely unreasonable and this practice amongst Indian families should stop. A cow was not born because we need something selfless, rather we came to know about selflessness because a cow was born. I am looking forward to experiencing a new world with you now my precious dear --- not with precast molds but only with fresh clay for you to carve on your own.
Love you my little baby and welcome to your home!
Yours,
Dad
We just came to know about you today. I mean we knew that you were there since the last 20 weeks, but today we came to know that you are a girl. Sometime back I asked your mom whether she loves you and she gave me an interesting answer. She told me that she didn't had many feelings for Aakhya, your elder sister, while she was in the womb but started loving her once she was born. Seems like it is hard to have feelings (and love) for something abstract and we rather develop emotions as it takes a more concrete form. It is like we need a physical metaphor to connect to our emotional construct; and we indeed symbolize every emotions of ours in this physical world: Taj Mahal stands for love, Himalaya stand for bravery, Ganga stands for purity, Cow stands for selflessness, and every Hindu god of ours has his/her power linked to some form of nature. We need concretization to link and express our emotions. Today we learnt about a more concrete form of yours and so I suddenly feel a gush of emotions for you my dear daughter.
One thing you will see in this world is that sometimes people impose a concrete form in order to have the resulting emotions and feelings. For instance, doctor parents may impose their children to be doctors in order to be proud of them; school mates may impose a classmate to be dumb in order to bully her and have fun; colleagues may impose their counterparts to turn for or against them in order to indulge in office politics. This is a sad reality where we constantly cast each other into shapes that we like to see them in, without thinking about the shapes that they would like to be in. Unfortunately, I was guilty of this when we boxed you into a male form and expected to have a balanced girl-boy family. As a result, there was a tinge of unmet expectations when we realized that you in fact wanted to be a girl. But now that I think about it, we were completely unreasonable and this practice amongst Indian families should stop. A cow was not born because we need something selfless, rather we came to know about selflessness because a cow was born. I am looking forward to experiencing a new world with you now my precious dear --- not with precast molds but only with fresh clay for you to carve on your own.
Love you my little baby and welcome to your home!
Yours,
Dad
It's so touching. Whenever she will grow up and see what her Dad has written for her , it will be her first moment to see the world through her papa's eyes. Your feelings are coming from my eyes. I could not hug you there to share our moment of joy but yes I am truly proud to be a mom of yours two wonderful daughters��
ReplyDeleteSuch wonderful and pure thoughts from your Parents, little Aakhaya(as your official name is still to be coined). We all are so glad for you and eagerly waiting your arrival when we all could see you in this world of casted and uncasted clay. Like every other parent, aspiring for balanced family they had some expectation before they came to know about your desire to be a girl and they are perfectly alright in their desire. However that does not lessen their love and care for you, infact their initial thought about you will strengthen their bond and will always push them to be forever extra extra loving n caring for you. I m sure with brilliant guidance of your parents you will create your own molds which will be unique in its own sense. Welcome to new world dear Dolly !!!
ReplyDeleteTons n tons of Hugs and love
Bua